Do you ever find yourself meeting with someone and find that you have no topics to talk about? Do you notice that you often experience long silences in conversations? This may be especially noticeable when you’re on a first date with someone. While conversations with friends typically experience moments of silence, this can be excruciating when you’re on a date, especially a first date.
Things to talk about with a girl on a First Date Topics:
When you’re on a first date, the atmosphere should be light and casual. This is a great time to discuss basic things like your likes and dislikes, hobbies, and similar subjects. However, you may be struggling to think of things to say on a date. This isn’t uncommon and many people find this to be true. Here are a few questions or general areas to focus on that are appropriate for a first date.
* Favorite experience traveling
This is a great topic to discuss if you or your date enjoy traveling. Even if you don’t travel frequently, you and your date probably have some interesting experiences that can be used to spark good conversations. Share an experience from your own travels and make it something that’s lighthearted but makes a little fun of yourself. Then, ask your date for similar experiences. It’s a topic that breaks the ice and opens up a variety of topics.
* Favorite television series
This is a good way to get to know your date’s tastes in entertainment. While you may not have similar tastes, you probably have watched at least one show in common. This is a topic which may go into other ones or can just be a short get-to-know-you question. You can also use this question to discuss what you enjoy in a television show and what really keeps you interested in a series. Discuss your favorite ones in the past and on air today if you both are frequent television watchers.
* Worst high school experience
Everyone probably has a few cringe-worthy moments from high school and this is a great way to learn about a date’s past and what they were like in high school. You can also ask your date if it was possible to go back in time and change a past event, which one they would choose and why. You probably have at least one event in your past that you wish you could change and you should be prepared with your own answer. Most people are curious about people’s history and how they became who they are today, so you can learn a little more about a person through this question.
* Top items on a bucket list
This question really gets to what your date wants to achieve in his or her lifetime. It also provides an opportunity to determine if you have similar ambitions in life. Make sure that you have a few items off of your own bucket list to share. Some of these items could be silly like finally putting together Ikea furniture successfully, but make sure to have a few profound items as well. Your date will want to know that you also have ambition in life.
* Pet peeves
You may or may not be high maintenance, but it’s always a good idea to figure out what type of person your date is when it comes to things that may be pet peeves. Ask about what pet peeves he or she has to figure out how tolerant they are. They may only be annoyed by things that are truly annoying or they may not be bothered by all that much. The reason why this makes such a good question though, is that everyone has a pet peeve so it’s a good ice breaker.
* Places you’d never move
Ask your date what top three places he or she would never move, even if that location had the job of their dreams. This is a good way to learn a little more about what your date does or does not like in general. You may find out some surprising facts about your date and also yourself when you have to answer the question.
Things to talk about with a Friend or Family Member
The questions that you might ask a friend or family member are obviously going to be different than the ones that you would ask a date. However, whether it’s a friendship you’re trying to build or a family member that you don’t know well, it’s never a bad idea to have a few topics on hand. Use this list of questions to spark a conversation.
1. What’s the one job you could never do?
Most people have an idea of the career they definitely want and some that they could stand. However, everyone has a job that they could never do. Ask this question to learn a little more about a person in an interesting way.
2. What is your proudest moment or greatest achievement of your life?
You may already know the answer to this question, or you may find out something interesting by asking it. However, either way, it’s a good way to spark a conversation and you may want to make sure that you’ve considered what your answer is as well.
3. What was the last book you read?
Most people enjoy discussing literature and there are some great books out there today. Discuss what books you’ve read recently and why or why not you liked them. You’ll be having a good conversation and also getting in a book review at the same time.
4. What would you do if you just won a million dollars?
We all have probably thought about what we would do if we suddenly won the lottery, but everyone has a different answer to this question. Maybe you’d buy a boat and start sailing around the world or maybe you’d just pay off your college loans. No matter what, it’s always interesting to hear what others would do.
5. What would you choose for a superpower?
This is a great question for anyone who enjoys comic books or movies based on them. You’ve probably wished for some type of superpower to make your life easier, so make it a point to find out what another person’s would be. You can even go further this question and find out what their superhero name would be.
This is my things to talk about when I’m meeting a friend, or having a date. If you have more things to add, don’t hesitate to let us know!